| In
the age of instant noodles, instant access and instant
gratification, instant dating is claiming its mark.
After all, who has time to scour the singles scene
searching for Mr. or Ms. Right while sipping a martini
and appearing suave and sophisticated? To combat this
problem, singles all over the country and those in
Campbell and the Bay Area are turning to an alternative
to the typical dating scene called "speed dating."
Speed dating is exactly what it sounds like. A group
of people get together for a few hours at a local bar or
club, and each man gets to meet a certain number of
women for a short amount of time. After each "date,"
both individuals write down whether or not they want to
meet the other person again on a date card, and then
they both rotate on to the next prospective candidate.
Stoddard's Brewery in Campbell was the site of a
recent speed-dating event called CineSingles, sponsored
by Cinequest. More than 60 men and women signed up for
the opportunity to meet 10 people of the opposite gender
during five-minute "dates." The Aug. 22 event required
that participants be 21 or over, and people of all ages
showed up.
One of the participants was Campbell resident Mary
Ann Scrivano, who heard about the event through a
friend. The 52-year-old Scrivano, who is also a member
of the Christian Singles Fellowship, thought attending a
speed-dating event would be a good way to meet people.
"I think five minutes will be no problem, and it'll
be safe," Scrivano said a few days before she went to
the event. "I always enjoy meeting new people."
After experiencing speed dating for the first time,
Scrivano said she would be likely to do it again.
"It was a really fun evening," Scrivano said.
She added that although most of the men she met were
around her son's age, she didn't mind.
"I enjoy meeting people of all ages," she said. "You
can learn something from everyone."
While Cinequest is not a speed-dating company, and
CineSingles was its first foray into the speed-dating
scene, there are many companies across the country that
deal exclusively in the speed-dating business. It's a
business that has developed into one of the hottest ways
to meet people on the East Coast, according to industry
leaders.
"This is a good option because it addresses a lot of
the pitfalls and inefficiencies in dating today," said
ImpactDate.com President Jessica Dodin, whose
organization coordinates many speed-dating events in the
Bay Area.
In today's singles scene, people go out trying to
meet others, but usually they leave with the same people
they walked in with. And online dating doesn't allow any
face-to-face interaction, she added.
But this San Francisco-based speed-dating company
guarantees that an individual will meet anywhere from
eight to 12 people per event by sitting with them
one-on-one at a small table.
"There's no pressure of getting asked out," Dodin
said.
ImpactDate.com formats it so the women usually sit at
the small table and the men rotate through the tables in
a clockwise manner. Everyone also has an event card on
which individuals can mark down whether or not they want
to see his or her "date" again as a second date, a
friend or neither.
Dodin said if people go to two or three events, they
could potentially meet 30 members of the opposite sex.
Trying to meet that many eligible people on one's own
could take years, she said with a laugh.
The company also has some high success numbers.
"We have over 80 percent match per event," Dodin
said.
The company offers clients not just a dating
experience but also a way to see the hottest places in a
particular city.
Another leader in the speed-dating industry is
8minuteDating.com, based in Boston. The company recently
put on an event at The Edge—a club in Palo Alto—which
drew singles from all over the Bay Area.
One of the individuals at that event was Kevin
McKale, identified as Kevin202. It was his third time
participating in an 8minuteDating event.
"I haven't met the love of my life yet," McKale said,
which was why he was at The Edge that night.
He likes the speed-dating format, because he knows
everyone attending is single and is there for the same
reason.
"You get a good chance to talk and present yourself,"
he said. "Some networking also happens."
Tom Jaffee, CEO and founder of 8minuteDating.com,
said his speed-dating company is satisfying an
unfulfilled need in the community by providing a "fast
and comfortable way to meet people."
Online dating doesn't allow the individuals to
establish any physical attraction, Jaffee said, and
people tend to build up a high expectation. When the two
finally meet, often the result is disappointment.
"We're online dating in reverse," Jaffee said.
And then there's the bar scene, which may not be the
best environment to meet an eligible individual, Jaffee
said.
He said he has gone to different social settings to
watch how people interact. He's noticed that people go
in groups and that their body language discourages
others from approaching. People who do approach are
thought of as aggressive or having brazen personalities,
he said.
"The setup is very difficult for nice people to
engage in a conversation," he added.
So 8minuteDating.com developed a different approach.
Every individual who signed up for the event has done so
because he or she wants to meet other singles. Everyone
will meet eight people in eight minutes. Individuals
will then mark whether they want to meet someone for
business, friendship, a second date or not at all.
The company's most popular age category is 25- to
35-year-olds. There are also special-interest events
available, such as events for gays and lesbians, Jewish
singles and vegetarians.
Clients are asked not to give out contact
information. And numbers or emails are only given out if
people match, allowing privacy and safety.
Of course, there is no guarantee that someone
participating in a speed-dating event will meet "the
right one." Instead, speed dating is just another
alternative for all the singles out there who want
something a little different from the typical online
romance or club outing.
As Dodin said, "It's a very good way to boost your
dating life." |